Table of Contents

Part One

CALMS-Five Simple Steps to Harmony……………………17
Check In With Yourself……………………………………….20
Allow a Breath…………………………………………………22
Listen to Your Baby……………………………………………24
Make Contact and Mirror Feelings…………………………..26
Soothe Your Baby…………………………………………….. 28

Part Two

Why Do CALMS? ……………………………………………….33
Babies Are Conscious ………………………………………..36
Nature and Nurture …………………………………………….38
Babies Are Sensing ……………………………………………40
Babies Experience Birth ……………………………………….42
What Do Babies Want?. ……………………………………….44
Brain Development 101 ………………………………………..46
Babies Learn How to Feel
From the People They are With ……………………………….48
Sorting Out Feelings ……………………………………………50
Frustrations of a New Parent ………………………………….51
Connection is the Key …………………………………………..52
Community Support ……………………………………………..54

Part Three

Experiences From Other Families………………………………………..59
Joshua Susie and Mike:A father uses CALMS…………………………..60
Sofia Carlos and Gloria: Difficult beginning with breastfeeding………67
Olivia Kim and Ben: Nighttime sleep issues…………………………….72

Part Four

Coping with Feelings of Guilt……………………………………………….79
Understanding Your Baby’s Signals……………………………………….80
Developmental Stages……………………………………………………….82
Resource Links………………………………………………………………..83